Most people don’t associate long-term care facilities with “family,” but Beaverton has a retirement community where family is everything. In the year 2000, when Hearthstone at Murrayhill was built on the corner of Scholls Ferry and Davies, founders Walter and Helen Friesen and their adult children made a commitment to serving families.
Hearthstone is a family-owned senior living company. Our founder is a former family counselor. We know that when a parent starts to need extra help, often times, sibling rivalry rears its ugly head. Adult children suddenly take on old roles – the bossy child, the spoiled brat or the emotional one. Differences in ability to take time off from work or from raising a family or varying income levels can make the situation even more complicated.
Our advice is to have a family meeting about memory care, sans the parent(s). It’s a way of putting the issues on the table and coming up with a solution. Decide on each person’s contributions to the cause. If you can’t reach common ground, you might want to consider contacting a mediator like Genesis Mediation in Beaverton.
Your parents’ opinions matter, so include them once you have a suitable plan to present. Ideally this will be done before dementia is a part of the equation. Once dementia has been diagnosed, getting your loved one to agree to a move or any outside help for memory care is much, much, more difficult. Let Hearthstone Senior Living help you navigate through this difficult transition.